If you are not one of your own biggest admirers, you should be. If you don’t consider yourself being capable and worthy, you should. If you don’t choose yourself to be on your own team, you should. You need a change in attitude and an infused self-esteem, if you don’t believe in yourself.

Self-esteem and confidence goes hand in hand as it relates to using your abilities and personally giving accolades to yourself. Unfortunately, a lot of women often have negative thoughts about themselves and look for others to tell them that they are smart, beautiful and full of potential. If you don’t validate yourself, who will? You don’t have to measure up to what others think about you. You are unique and you were born to be extraordinary and one-of-a-kind. No one else is like you. You have so much to offer to society, your family and yourself.

If you don’t want to spend time and effort on yourself, then you are limiting the possibilities and you won’t be able to be of help to anyone else; let alone yourself. Believing in yourself is not conceit or self-centeredness.  It is a way to care for your own well-being before you can care for someone else’s. You have to be happy and contented first before you can please someone else.

Believing in yourself means that you have identified your true potential and your inner worth. Once you believe in yourself, you will be able to survive any type of criticism from others. Your quality of life will improve because you will feel more worthwhile to the people in your surroundings.

Belief in yourself helps you to have an impact on circumstances in your life and this inevitably gives you the self-assurance and bravery to face all the challenges that life brings.

How to begin

If you are a habitual non-believer in yourself, who you are and what you can offer to society, it is time to change. You have to take the personal responsibility to change your misconceptions about yourself. It may be that all your life someone has been telling you that ‘you won’t amount to anything in life.’ It may be that you have hung on to this belief that still is stifling you. It is time to do something about those mind-altering ways of thinking because you are valuable and ‘you will amount to something’ as long as you honestly believe it. You have the power to manifest those changes by first saying these words:

  • I am beautiful
  • I am needed
  • I am worthwhile
  • I have a lot to offer
  • I can do anything I set my mind to
  • I am a survivor
  • I am successful
  • I am a happy person who anyone would want to hang around

Think good thoughts about yourself and it will become a reality. Doing so will help you to draw on a happier experience in your personal life. You will begin to glow and people will notice the difference.

Belief in yourself means that you have to start taking care of yourself by eating properly, meditating on positive things, exercise regularly, do the things that you are passionate about, enjoy the outdoors, read stimulating books to increase your knowledge, spend quality time with family and friends, give and receive love, have compassion for others, laugh as much as you can and enjoy life.


You are a unique gem. You are precious and your purpose on this earth has been carved out specifically for you. If you weren’t around, no one else could take your place. You have all the right to be here because you are meaningful. Once you believe this, the universe will make it real. What do you think about all of this? What is preventing your from believing that you are special? Let us know by commenting.