What is your black beast? Is it a panic attack? Is it excess weight? Is it procrastination? Is it an ongoing health issue that the doctors are unable to diagnose? Is it the inability to stay employed? Do you have drug addiction demons haunting you even now?  Each of us has something that keeps trailing us for years and we can’t seem to get rid of it, keep track of it or even tame it up until now. If you have been living with this beast for years, chances are that you are sick and tired of it. So what do you do?

Name it

If you can define or name this beast, you can at least move forward with the appropriate treatment or action. During an AAA meeting, for example, the alcoholic or drug addict has to outwardly proclaim that he/she is an alcoholic or drug addict. This brings the problem to the forefront and allows the person to admit and become accountable. If you try to avoid coming to terms with whatever the problem is that you are having, it is likely that it won’t go away. In order to let go, you have to acknowledge its presence in your life. If you are anorexic, the only way that you will be free of this sickness is to bravely say that you are. Remember, it is already there in your life. Who are you fooling if you don’t admit it? You are only fooling yourself.

The best and worst times

Evaluate your situation by trying to remember the best and worst times when you have experienced these issues. Doing so will help you to define the intensity levels and possibly allow you to get the best treatment and enjoy the periods of low levels. You may also be able to find out the cause. Next, you will have to fill in those gaps that you are unsure about, which means that this was the period that you cannot remember if it was worst or better.

Notice the connection

The exercise above provides information you need of the link between the beast and the association of other events in your life. You will be inclined to detect what you were going through as these issues arose.

Confronting the issue

To confront the issue head-on, it is best to ask yourself some pertinent questions and find the answers to them. On a piece of paper, write these questions down:

  • When the issue arose, where did you live and work?
  • Were you a housewife or full time mother?
  • What was your day like?
  • Who did you most spend time with on a daily basis?
  • What were your core beliefs?

Now as you answer these questions honestly, what did your best and worst times commonly relate to and when was the beast the worst and least bothersome? Were there any other elements present during the worst times that weren’t present during the best times?

The exercise may not entirely remove the beast, but it can be tamed. You will see the correlation between your behavior and the cause. You may still have the urge to drink, but each day, the urge diminishes.


Let us hear from you what type of beast you are battling with. Have you been successful at taming it? Did this article help you? We look forward to your comments.