If someone were to complain about something that you did or might have overlooked, what would you do? Would you take it as a constructive criticism and learn from it or get ‘thin skinned’ about it and pout? You may have thought you did a good job, but someone else expected more because they think highly of you and know you could do better. Look at it that way instead of negatively. All you have to do is to take the criticism and rejection as a learning tool and use it to put out more effort for the next time. This will help you to improve yourself.
Don’t be Think Skinned
If you happen to be a student or have been one at some point, you may have completed a project and your professor thinks that it is not enough for a passing grade, but he is kind enough to give you a chance to make up for it. Do you refuse to complete the project or do you think yourself lucky to have gotten the chance to do it over again? Don’t take these rejections personal. Take them with a ‘grain of salt’ and use it to your advantage.
If you are in a relationship, whether husband or boyfriend and he approaches you with the idea that you both need some space and maybe you should separate or enjoy some time away from each other, what do you do? Do you cry your heart out, which is normal? Or do you agree and move on to new things and new people, only to discover later that he was right? Maybe, it is possible that you both may meet again when you have matured and will appreciate each other more than you did before.
We are all susceptible to experiencing difficult times and instances of rejection. Sometimes, it is hard to avoid this and so you have to be prepared to embrace the situation with dignity and with strength, knowing you will make it as long as you think positively.
Here are some tips to avoid taking rejections personal:
- If you receive negative feedback, you don’t have to take it personal because the person giving the feedback may not be right about their viewpoint. So take the criticism lightly and consider how you can use it to your advantage.
- We all make mistakes and we all have imperfections. When someone complains about this, just laugh at it and let them know that they should first look at their imperfections before pointing out yours.
- If you get criticized at work, take the feedback as a way to become a better employee. When you can accept those criticisms, you show that you are open to improving yourself.
- Don’t act too much on your immediate emotions. Think before you speak and consider the lesson that you will learn from being criticized for something. If you can label the emotions, you will be able to channel it in an area where it will positively impact you.
Someone hurts your feelings? We all have experienced this at some time in our lives. So don’t take everything so personal. We should use situations to empower ourselves for positive change. What have you done lately to deal with rejection? Let us hear what you think about this topic. Leave your comments below.