Have you ever felt as if you are not deserving of success or possibly not competent or skilled enough to do what you do? You are not alone. There are many people who still ‘second guess’ themselves in more ways than one. This is considered by psychologists as being the ‘impostor or impersonator syndrome.’ This phenomenon does not eliminate successful individuals. In fact, they feel deceptive while waiting to see if someone will realize this and see them unfit for their roles.
Even celebrities have had to do this to land movie roles that they may not have thought they were qualified to do. The impostor or impersonator syndrome is certainly a commonality among individuals who have shot up the success ladder really quickly and cannot believe that they got there. This happens a lot to women who find themselves in a field that is male-dominated.
Live in the reality of your dream
So you, too, can fake it until you make it. You don’t even have to live in fear of someone finding out that you are not what you say you are. However, the reality is that you are ‘walking the walk,’ and believing that you are already where you want to be. Think of yourself as being capable of doing anything you set your mind to. You don’t have to continue feeling like an impostor. You just have to act the part. Gain the knowledge while you are acting the part and end up coming out a winner!
If you want to become a business owner, for example, you research the ways of acquiring that goal and follow those steps. In the meantime, you can go to local networking meetings with your already-printed business cards for your subsequent business and hand them out. May be that is the perfect opportunity to start getting clients for your business. Do you see the domino effect?
Excitement replaces fear
When you are faking something, it may make you a little fearful. However, this is normal, but you can equate your sense of fear with that of excitement. Your mind cannot tell the difference between fear and excitement. You control your mind by telling it that this is an opportunity and not a dilemma. In other words, turn the negative into a positive.
Be reasonable and practical
Don’t set a bar higher than you can attain. Set realistic expectations for yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. Just have enough confidence in your abilities.
It is time to redefine the meaning of competence. If you don’t, then you will always feel like you are constantly failing. Failure, however, is the path to success. Faking it until you make it doesn’t mean that you are a failure. It means that you know how competent you are in assuming the role you are trying to fake. Learn how to operate in that role so others can see your competence.
View “faking it” as an expertise
Not everyone is skilled enough to fake it until they make it. Again, confidence will be a valuable tool in such situations. You have to be skillful to be able to congregate with your peers, engage in a solid conversation and act the same way they do.
Evaluate and assess what you have. You don’t have to be brilliant than everyone else. You don’t need to be intimidated by anyone either. You just need to hold your own. Tell us a time when you had to fake it until you made it. We would love your story. Share it with our readers below.