Have you had the feeling of undeserved success? Or have you ever been happy to have gotten through another day without anyone discovering how untrained and amateurish you are? Have you ever thought that you are not smart enough to be where you are in your career? Do you anticipate a call from your employer saying that they have checked out your resume and it doesn’t seem as if you are as qualified as you say you are?
Did you think that the only reason you landed the job was that no one else was interested? This is the Imposter Syndrome, which is an occurrence where high achievers think that the only reason for their success is due to chance or a coincidence. Or it could be an individual who was able to fool someone into thinking that they are much smarter than they are. Which category do you fall in?
Identifying the problem
People with this phenomenon usually think that their qualifications don’t make them deserving. Unqualified individuals are not afraid to think that they deserve it. So there are two ends of the spectrum. Do you think that you are a counterfeit? Why so? Could this be just a lack of confidence in your true abilities? It is quite likely this is what it is. You doubt yourself even though you are rewarded for your accomplishments. If you find yourself thinking that you are a fraud, it is time to evaluate the situation and check on your self-esteem.
I know someone who was always a perfectionist and no matter how deserving she was of the praise and accolades received, she never felt pleased. Another friend felt guilty of receiving compliments for her work because she felt that humility was a more desirable trait than boasting about something. In both cases, this is Imposter Syndrome. It is OK to embrace success and it is OK to ‘fake it until you can make it,’ as long as you don’t hurt anyone. This doesn’t mean that you have to tell lies to get where you want to be. Just act like you already have it and it can be yours.
If you feel like a fraud, the solution is to work harder at not being conceived as that. In some cases, you can become quite self-sufficient because you are doing what it takes not to be discovered or labeled as a fake.
When you have these feelings of being an imposter, make note of when you had these feelings and what kind of situation may have caused it. Remember, you are only human and not everything is going to be perfect all the time. Get rid of negative thoughts. Always remain positively influenced by your circumstances. As long as you are aware of the triggers, you will be fine. Believe me, when I say that. Get professional help, if need be.
A transformation coach can help you to talk about your feelings. Becoming in tune with your emotions is a good initial step. Have you ever had to pretend to land a position in a company? How did you fare and how long did it last? Do you know anyone with Imposter Syndrome? Let’s hear your thoughts.