Everyone likes to feel a sense of importance by having other people think highly of them. Some will tend to always be in a state of denial and create false self-perceptions in order to avoid facing reality. Some will have ‘thin skin’ when it comes to hearing constructive criticisms and accepting mistakes made.

It is better to think objectively. If you are unable to accept responsibility for your actions, your lack of interest will only result in self-doubt. Being accountable for your actions doesn’t mean that you are weak or powerless. It is an opportunity to gain respect from your peers and maintain your self-respect at the same time.  Of course, you are not always going to do things perfectly, but as long as you make a good attempt, it will pay off.

When you accept the blame for your actions, it will help to improve your life. Once you own up to your primary responsibilities and subsequent actions, it will give you courage to take on more responsibilities. It will empower you to develop in more ways than one. You will be aware that nothing has to be negative; even if it doesn’t go your way. It can be an opportunity to tap into your abilities, maturity and open you up to the lessons of life.

What happens when you don’t take responsibility?

When you fail to take responsibility for your actions, you tend to defend every action; whether it is wrong or not. A sequence of events will result over a period of time; most of which could be negative. You may have an inflated sense of yourself that will make it hard to get along with others. You will then open the door for conflict and criticism of others. You will have a perception that you are more important than others. You will end up having an unrealistic and impractical expectation of individuals that you deal with. This may create impatience, lack of cooperation, defiance, anger, hopelessness, unhappiness, intolerance and a demanding attitude. As a result, your relationships and character could suffer for it. Before you know it, no one wants to be around you.

Some people find it difficult to assume responsibility for their action because of:

  • Insecure feelings
  • Arrogance and over-confidence
  • Prejudice

Ways to assume responsibility

You may be having a difficult time with responsibility if you don’t understand what is expected of you. So learn as much as you can about yourself. You should also be aware that mistakes does not equate to failure. There is no one who will consider you less of a person for a mistake you made as long as you own up to it and try to fix it. Try as much as you can to develop your self-esteem. To start, you should admit that sometimes you can have poor judgment. We all do. When you take ownership of your actions, it builds your confidence.

Here are a few things you should consider:

  • Release fear
  • Give yourself to serving others
  • Have compassion for others
  • Accept yourself
  • Love yourself and others
  • Be unbiased and honest
  • Don’t consider yourself to be a victim
  • Develop your spirituality


Do a self-assessment and evaluation of your life today. Are you having problems with accepting responsibility and being accountable for your own actions? Do you hate when others give you orders and instructions to follow? Are you confident about the decisions you make? What do you think about people who don’t own up to their actions? We invite you to provide comments that will help our readers.